Meeting New Friends
A couple posts ago I mentioned going to Evangel. This is also from that day after the service:)
I met a student there named Karen and she was really nice! I hope to have more memories with her.
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Just remember, if you're insecure about being younger than a girl and less mature, remember that God made you to be that exact age for that exact moment. Don't pretend to be someone else. Although she is years older than me, i still am not embarrassed or ashamed to be around her or others. There isn't a law that says you can only be friends with someone your age.
I can still be friends with girls who are older than me or are in college.
To put this idea into practice, say your friend's sister is a sophomore in high school. Every time your friend comes, she is talking about her sister and how she is so cool. One day, her sister picks her up from school in her new car. she asks you some questions, and you feel a little awkward...
Older sister: "So what's your name?"
You: (whatever your name is)
Older sister: "I see you attend junior high. How sweet!"
You: "Gee, thanks."
Your friend: "We play on the same volleyball team."
Older sister: "Well maybe ill see you again when i drop (your friend) off at practice!"
You: "Yeah, i guess."
She drives off with your friend as your mom comes to pick you up.
This conversation could've gone smoother and less awkward. instead of answering her with yes or no replies, try asking her questions back.
Older sister: "So what's your name?"
You: (whatever your name is), What's yours?
Older sister: "Oh, my name is (name)."
You: "I like that name. So when did you get your license?"
Older sister: "This February. Thanks for asking!"
Your friend: "We play on the same volleyball team."
Older sister: "I hope to see you there when i drop my sister off."
You: "Me too. Bye!"
See how the sister seems to be enjoying the conversation better the second time?
Your age difference might be the only barrier that keeps you and the sister apart...
But that doesn't have to be that way.
Picture this, when you are 30, the sophomore would be 35! That is not much of a difference.
Sometimes, it's the friend who could be more friendlier. So what do you do when you want to get to know the friend, but she acts standoffish? BE YOURSELF.
Best friends don't happen when just one person wants to be friends, they both have to agree.
They also take time. Don't blame it on yourself if the friend doesn't seem interested in a middle-schooler. Do your part by reaching out and let her feel guilty when you both are pregnant and in you thirties without any past relationship. She might not think you are cool or as good as her other friends. Relationships take time! Also, look for areas in your life where you could be a little more friendlier to younger peers. They might want to be friends with you too!
I met a student there named Karen and she was really nice! I hope to have more memories with her.
(picture will be posted as soon as it downloads)
Just remember, if you're insecure about being younger than a girl and less mature, remember that God made you to be that exact age for that exact moment. Don't pretend to be someone else. Although she is years older than me, i still am not embarrassed or ashamed to be around her or others. There isn't a law that says you can only be friends with someone your age.
I can still be friends with girls who are older than me or are in college.
To put this idea into practice, say your friend's sister is a sophomore in high school. Every time your friend comes, she is talking about her sister and how she is so cool. One day, her sister picks her up from school in her new car. she asks you some questions, and you feel a little awkward...
Older sister: "So what's your name?"
You: (whatever your name is)
Older sister: "I see you attend junior high. How sweet!"
You: "Gee, thanks."
Your friend: "We play on the same volleyball team."
Older sister: "Well maybe ill see you again when i drop (your friend) off at practice!"
You: "Yeah, i guess."
She drives off with your friend as your mom comes to pick you up.
This conversation could've gone smoother and less awkward. instead of answering her with yes or no replies, try asking her questions back.
Older sister: "So what's your name?"
You: (whatever your name is), What's yours?
Older sister: "Oh, my name is (name)."
You: "I like that name. So when did you get your license?"
Older sister: "This February. Thanks for asking!"
Your friend: "We play on the same volleyball team."
Older sister: "I hope to see you there when i drop my sister off."
You: "Me too. Bye!"
See how the sister seems to be enjoying the conversation better the second time?
Your age difference might be the only barrier that keeps you and the sister apart...
But that doesn't have to be that way.
Picture this, when you are 30, the sophomore would be 35! That is not much of a difference.
Sometimes, it's the friend who could be more friendlier. So what do you do when you want to get to know the friend, but she acts standoffish? BE YOURSELF.
Best friends don't happen when just one person wants to be friends, they both have to agree.
They also take time. Don't blame it on yourself if the friend doesn't seem interested in a middle-schooler. Do your part by reaching out and let her feel guilty when you both are pregnant and in you thirties without any past relationship. She might not think you are cool or as good as her other friends. Relationships take time! Also, look for areas in your life where you could be a little more friendlier to younger peers. They might want to be friends with you too!
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